Jeepthing,
I agree with the above poster about clearance required for the Jeep style wheels. The guys you see on offroad forums are running largely offset wheels, or running custom torsion axles which are very exspensive. If money is not an object, do it. But here is an alternative Idea.
Use a #3500 idler axle. I recommend Dexter because it is what I have, and I have never had an issue. The maximum length beyond the spring perches is pretty big. I don't remember what it is exactly (you can look this up on Dexter's spec sheet on the website) it seems like it was 17". This means you can have 8-9 inches of axle (from hub face to outer side of spring perch) on each side and that's with the thought the axle will be carrying #3500. Mine carries a little under #1000, and has 7" of length beyond the spring perches. This gave me enough room to mount the tires I wanted to use. Which by the way I used my old Jeep spare tire and rim (that came originally on the Jeep) and 2 others I wrangled from friends, and craigslist. This gave me enough tires for the trailer and the spare. I also installed my original Jeep spare tire carrier on the front of my trailer this weekend since It is using the 5 on 4.5 also. I guess in a pinch I could always use the spare from the trailer on my Jeep if needed, though it would be a little lop sided
Also I have a frame clearance of 21" on my trailer with this setup. It is set as a SOA (spring over axle) If I had it as SUA I think I would only have 17"ish. You could also always run a SOA with the stock 5 lug trailer size which is the 12" rim it has a 21"tire instead of the 29" (stock Jeep tire). This would give you around 18" of frame according to spring size. I guess I should also say I use a strengthened Harbor Freight trailer with the stock HF springs.
Hope this helps, sorry for rambling.
Jeremy