Missing Person

[JawjaBoy]

I spent 15 years mostly drunk and mostly homeless because of a divorce from my childhood sweetheart [ and my own sorriness] and I hope you don't go down that trail. Women of marrying caliber are few and far between,but it's true that the best thing to get you over a woman is another woman. Hang in there,buddy!

[Ira]

But it's true that the best thing to get you over a woman is another woman.

Remember, Tom--another WOMAN. Not a MAN!

Not that there's anything wrong with it.



(A classic Seinfeld joke, so please everyone, don't give me any crap about it.)

[Joseph]

Sorry to hear it, Tom. Same thing happened to me only it was after a 40 year relationship which included 33 years of marriage. As you may have noticed at the Spring Tear-Up, Kate (Johnson, not McGrath!) has healed me. You will get through it and I hope you find your own healing.

Joseph

[BILLYL]

Tom-

Sorry to hear about it. I most tell you I have used your site as my "GO TO SITE" when I had a question about my TD build. Stay around and let us know how we can help out - since you really helped out others.

If you ever get to the DC area - drop by - I'll buy you a beer..............

Bill

[Miriam C.]

But it's true that the best thing to get you over a woman is another woman.

Remember, Tom--another WOMAN. Not a MAN!

Not that there's anything wrong with it.



(A classic Seinfeld joke, so please everyone, don't give me any crap about it.)

You guys Tom if you do anything this stupid you deserve it. Try this, take time to list all the compromises you made over all the years. Label that list "What I would do if". Then get the "H" out there and do it.

Litterally get to know who you have become as an individual over the past 25 years. You might supprise yourself...

Big hug.

[Classic Finn]

Hi Dean,

I'm truly sorry to have caused you such worry. Yes, we have lots of Swensons in this neck of the woods.

Thanks for the encouragement and sharing your story.

Take care,

Tom

The Swensons are a tough breed of people.. weve got an entire Country of them next door... Hang in there Tom... Things will get better.. and Im willing to bet that one day you,ll be telling us all that youve fallen in love. And your going on to building a 2nd Teardrop for the occasion.. I do believe in miracles...and you must believe that as well..

Time heals all wounds... I know, Im not married the 1st time...darn she got seasick too easily...

Keep in touch Tom

Best wishes
Classic Finn

[jmtk]

Tom,

It's funny how people we never met and live clear across the country can touch our lives. I was saddened to learn of your and Wendy's decision. Even though I've not gone through what you're experiencing, I've been through my share of rough life events. Hang on, time eases the pain and things do get better.

Like many others, I also used your great site as a reference. Heck, I even used a picture of your teardrop in last year's Christmas letter as an example of what I hoped to build in the coming year!

Now please take this next bit in the proper spirit - sometimes the best medicine is to laugh about your problems (and if it doesn't work that way for you, I humbly apologize in advance)… I was telling my husband about "this guy on the forum" and his wife decided to split, to which my husband responded, "Was he starting to talk about building a second teardrop?"

Take care,

Jeanette

[Joseph]

Tom, this is kind of a goofy site, but I think they hit the nail on the head with this one. "We all go through times when we wish we could press a fast-forward button and propel ourselves into the future and out of our current circumstances." Read the whole thing - it's worth it.

Joseph

[MOKI SEAKER]

Sorry to hear about your loss, where there any children involved. I, like most Grandparents think about the children first. I know it will be hard on you but you just have to hang in there, maybe move to a different part of the country. When the house is taken care of and you can get away, hook up the TD an visit the people on this forum. You may never go back home again, you might find a whole new life for yourself, you really need to cut lose from your old life, this is just my opinion of course. Jeanette do you really think he was going to build another trailer. Wow I look at his album at least once a day. Jim G

[TomS]

Thanks again for the kind words everyone.

We have two children.

Our daughter, age 23, graduated from college last year. She is engaged to a really nice guy that she met in college. They'll be getting married on June 30.

Our son, age 18, graduated from a local vocational high school this year. He wants to go the a school in New Hampishire next year to learn to run excavation equipment (bulldozers, graders, etc.).

Since they are both adults custody isn't an issue. Obviously, the news of our split was difficult. But, they are handling it well. They appreciate our commitment to keeping things amicable and our desire to remain friends.

As for me, I have no intention to jump into another serious relationship for a good long while. I went from my parents home, to the Army where I married Wendy halfway through my enlistment. I have never lived entirely on my own. I look forward living independantly in my own place.

Wendy is a very private person. For that reason, I really don't want to say much more about our situation. I will tell you that she is the kindest and most generous peson I know. I wish her nothing of the best.

[Laredo]

Tom,
It's been a long time since I've stood in that shadow.
I can tell you two things about it.
The shadow isn't forever.
The shine on the far side will amaze you, especially because you're probably not expecting it to shine on you.

It's good that your children are grown, and that you two can remain amicable. It won't feel like it now, or probably for awhile, but one of these days you'll discover some of your good memories making you smile, albeit a little wistfully, again.

Meanwhile, we're all here -- holler when you need us!