Miriam,
I'm sorry to hear what you and Mike and the family is having to go through with Ms. Pat. I
know what you are dealing with and the emotional toll it takes is unexplainable. To watch someone you care deeply about go through the tortures of Cancer is pure hell. I pray I never have to do that again.
You are in my prayers.
I want to thank all of you for the sweet, soothing words of comfort regarding Alexis. I still am having a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that she has died. I dreamt about her last night...she had no cancer in my dream...it was a good feeling. I think it was her way of telling me that she is finally in a place where she has no pain...no suffering.
A couple of things I want to share with ya'll. There were almost 500 people at her viewing! 500 people!! Lex was born and raised here and worked for the County for almost 19 years. She was well liked. The flower arrangements were so beautiful and the amout of food that was delivered during the past week is just unbelievable. It was such a good feeling to see this. Now that she is buried and things have calmed down, the reality of it will set in.
After the viewing on Wednesday, we had a "celebration of life" at her brothers home. I think close to 125 people attended. Right at sundown all of us released pink heart shaped mylar balloons that each of us wrote a message to Lex on. The wind had picked up a little when we started to release them and this is no lie . . . when we let go of them, a shooting star came right over us. You could have heard a pin drop, then everyone just said "Oh my God". It was like Alexis said "hey everybody".
Tears started to flow and laughter erupted.
The next day we had a private family burial. Everyone left before they lowered her except for Fred, her brother-n-law and I. We agreed to stay for that. She was being buried right next to her 2 son's daddy, who died when he was 39 from an anuresym (spelling?). Right after they lowered her into her vault, a pretty tree frog came hopping from Red's (husband's nickname) grave site and hopped right up to the edge of Lex's grave. Me, the funeral director and Fred just froze hoping he wouldn't jump. I started to shoe him away and said something about Red loving to scare Lex with frogs. Well, the frog turned away, took 2 hops, turned around and came back to her grave, looked at us and jumped in with her.
Fred and I looked at each other and said "I think Red's spirit just jumped in with Lex". We had to laugh. At first we agreed not to tell the family but I couldn't hold down my side of the bargain. When I told them what happened, they were so happy. They said Red loved frogs and would tease Lex with them. So, I guess he had to annoy her one more time. I know she's smiling.
All I know to do is say a prayer for you . 
