by Arne » Thu Aug 28, 2008 6:34 am
After I lost my spouse, May, 2007, I sat alone in my house, tried to get out when I could and was pretty miserable.
When the cold, short, nights of winter started to settle in, I was sitting in my house one night and said I can't go on like this. A friend suggested yahoo personals. I signed up for it and forgot about it. Two months later, I went back to figure out if I had gotten any responses. I had.... 9 of them.
3 were too far away. After thinking further another 3 were too far away to do a steady commute to... I went out with one of the other 3. Her picture was at least 5 years old and 20 pounds lighter. I barely recognized her from her picture. She was a sad person, still mourning her husbands death after 5 years and just coming off a bad relationship. Our lunch was like I was being interviewed.
I left feeling, 'hey, at least I got out of the house'....
I also had by then signed up for 'plenty of fish'. I had one date from that site and it was very nice, but again, too far away to be driving back and forth.
I cut down my search area to 10 miles, from 25 which had been cut down from 50.... I received and sent several letters of introduction over about a month or so.
Back to yahoo personals. Of the 3 remaining out of the original 9, I went out on a date with one of them. She lived 10 miles away, was nice looking, great personality, owned her own business. We went out 3 days before my birthday. It was a nice chatty time. I had an Irish Mist for an after dinner cordial. I got a call from her a couple of days later to stop over to her business location. She handed me a bag. Inside was a large bottle of Irish Mist and a few other items she had gotten me for my birthday.....
We are now under one roof. A year ago I was in misery and mental anguish. Now, life is good. I can not believe at my age I was able to meet someone so compatible (most of the time :} ...) and be enjoying myself so much.
I also know, after talking to others, that my story is a minority one. Some join and meet nothing but losers and weirdos..... I lucked out. And like they say, you can't win if you don't play.
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Just an aside, I'm editing this to let you know it reminded me how important she is to me, so I went down, put my arms around her and gave her a kiss on the back of her neck.... she likes that.
and get out in the real world again.
