First, thanks for all the input folks, much appreciated, one & all. It turns out the RV tank only functions as-built, with the valves etc. located as designed. The vapor is drawn off the top, not the liquid, as was stated above. The question about taking the whole trailer in for a refill was also a good one, a bit much to be sure. Here's what I've decided on now.
I'm going to buy one of these for about $60.

Manchester makes a similar tank (8.9" diameter), but it's a 10# model, so I figure I can always use the extra pound with the slightly larger tank. I'm going to run a combined 2 burner stove / oven unit, so it should last for a few weeks at a time on the road with coffee and a meal or two. I can always get a spare cylinder if I need more capacity and mount them next to each other, or keep it in the back of the truck as a spare. I spoke with a guy in Flagstaff a couple of weeks back, who said his 11# tank was last filled a few months ago, since they don't use it a lot.
It will fit in the space OK because it's only 9" in diameter and 16" tall. I'll just cut a circular hole in the diamond plate and run rubber trim around the inside edge of the hole to avoid chafing the powder coat. Two eye bolts and a couple of light chains will hold it in place. Then I can just remove it when it's time to fill it up again. This is an easier solution, cheap, readily available, & should work well enough.
Next I will need to think about plumbing. 1/2" black iron or 3/8" copper? thanks, tim