I've been doing so much reading and researching in all these posts that my head is spinning.

I'm hoping some of you can help me reach a little more understanding on all this.
Some basics of our plan:
Both AC and DC - outlets in cabin and outlets in galley to occasionally... charge a phone? use a laptop/dvd?
(we don't usually use electricity when camping)
Vent fan
Cabin lights LED
Galley Lights LED
Porch lights LED
Water pump
Battery on the tongue
Fuse and disconnect on cable near battery (not figured out yet, see questions below)
Power Center at the back of the cabin in upper cabinet
Here's even a rough drawing of our plan, laid out like it would be on the teardrop.
Now some of what's making my head spin...
Thought we would go with the Progressive Dynamics 4045, but now thinking that might too much for our needs. Should we go with the smaller 4135 instead?
And is a unit like this really that much easier? Sounds like many have confusion with the installation?
The wire run from the battery to the power center is 15 ft, going through the ceiling cavity. We already bought 6AWG cable according to charts showing the voltage drop and estimated load. But is this still too heavy for our needs? What fuse goes on this gauge? Or should we go with a lighter 8AWG? Then what fuse?
What size cable goes from the shore power inlet to the power center? (It's a 3 foot run - does that even matter?)
I see many wiring diagrams using 12AWG or even 14AWG to lights and such that likely draw less than 1 amp. Isn't that over doing it? Isn't 16 or even 18 AWG more reasonable?
And finally, (for now) what size battery is a good choice? I know they have different amp hour ratings. Do we need to match the battery size to whatever power unit we get? Or to the amp usage in the whole system?
Please forgive my ignorance on some of this. I'm not even sure I'm asking the questions correctly. I'm no stranger to working with diy electric stuff, but when it comes to batteries, DC and converters and such, it's like a foreign language ugh!

Erfnie (and Azua)