Len,
No good answer. At Minden this year, it seemed like there was 10 times as much food as there were people. And the main courses seemed to go on forever, because everyone made enough for themselves, plus 10-12 other people. The food was all soooooo good that everyone eats until they are sick and that doesn't include the desserts, which were delicious.
So, I think as a rule of thumb, if everyone would make enough for each member of their party, plus 5 or 6 more, there would still be too much to eat.
Another thing is people don't want to run out of food, so they take a smaller portion than they normally would, to save some for others.
After much thought, probably is no solution. Just cook what you like, as much as you normally do and then eat leftovers on the way home. That's what Miriam and I did on the way back from Minden.
I am sure one of the women will come on with a formula, but when you ask if they follow it, the answer is probably no. Just look at any Thanksgiving get together and see how many leftovers ther are.
