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[Senior Ninja]

Steve,
Our build helped me through the thirty year relationship that ended when she brought a truck and took her stuff telling to sell the house and send her her half. Still hurts, but you are doing all the right things.
It does get better, but slowly.
Steve

[steve smoot]

Thanks guys,

I understand completely. I will be fine. Plan to spend some time this winter finishing my camper. Then a few minor things around the house that I never finished when I built it, then put the sucker on the market and see what happens.

[steve smoot]

Hope you take the time to get to know yourselves as mature adults...

Blessing to you.

I sure plan to take my time. If I get another girlfriend, it will be a total accident, and she must have a teardrop.

[steve smoot]

Oh what the hell, I may as well tell the story...you guys are not going to tell anyone, right?

I was 32 years old, so that was 32 years ago. I was dating a girl named Debbie. She was a school teacher, a really nice young lady. We had a lot of good times together. She loved to camp, actually she is the one that turned me on to camping.

The problem was she fell in love with me and I was not ready to be tied down, so we had a few verbal disagreements and I started seeing other gals. That is when I met my current wife.

Well, short story, I broke Debbie's heart and I have felt bad about this for 32 years. She was the one I should have married. We loved the same things. She was my soul mate, but I had my head up my ass. Now, I'm being paid back.

Steve

[Gage]

I sure plan to take my time. If I get another girlfriend, it will be a total accident, and she must have a teardrop.

Come to California. Plenty of single women with teardrops. .....

[S. Heisley]

Steve Smoot wrote:

Well, short story, I broke Debbie's heart and I have felt bad about this for 32 years. She was the one I should have married. We loved the same things. She was my soul mate, but I had my head up my ass. Now, I'm being paid back.

It sounds like your brain is still not sitting on your shoulders. Do what you must to shake that brain up and get it back where it should be.

If you don't grow together when you have the chance, you grow apart. 99 out of 100 times, it is spilled milk, water over the dam, smashed Humpty Dumpty eggs. So, go see the missed love and see if it is the 1 in 100. After a visit or two, you'll probably find out that the memories are sweeter than reality. Then, forgive yourself and get on with your life. There isn't a person alive who is perfect or hasn't made mistakes. You stumble, take a wrong turn or whatever. Somehow, most people manage to dust themselves off and find their way. You can too.

...Just clean up your act before you meet woman #3.

Regards from Mama Bear.

[Jiminsav]

Marriage is like a deck of cards -- in the beginning, all you needed was two hearts and a diamond.

But after years pass, there are times you wished you had a friggin’ club and a spade....

OMG...thats good.
And Steve, your in good company..I'm in the same boat right now..except I live in

[Jiminsav]

Thanks guys,

I understand completely. I will be fine. Plan to spend some time this winter finishing my camper. Then a few minor things around the house that I never finished when I built it, then put the sucker on the market and see what happens.

Get Carla Wade as your Agent..thats Ross Wade' Wife

[steve smoot]

Sharon, you sure are rough on an old dude...

I would love to shake up my brain, but it causes vertigo...

[S. Heisley]

Steve Smoot wrote:

Sharon, you sure are rough on an old dude...

I would love to shake up my brain, but it causes vertigo...

I didn’t get nicknamed ‘Mama’ for nothing. Sometimes a kick in the verbal butt is a good wake-up. (Yes, I’ve had wake-up whacks.)

If your head is in a slumped position, your body may follow and you could topple over. If you’re looking back for too long, you might stumble. You’ve got to stand tall and look and move in the best direction for your whole being.

There is a saying that the best revenge is living well. That’s true even if you’re taking revenge against your own self’s past mistakes. Please note that the key word in that last sentence is ‘past’. Look forward and do the best for you.

[parnold]

Steve:

Your story hit a real soft spot in my heart. I too had a woman thirty years ago that to this day I feel would have made my best "soul mate" however it never worked out, we were both young, and our very close friendship never turned romantic. I still think of her often and wonder what if?

I've been through three divorces, all painful, one nasty. I have to say that Sharon is offering some incredible advice. We have some ability to shape our future, and that is where our hearts and minds need to focus their attention.

[Miriam C.]

Dare I suggest you boys go find MS wonderful that you left behind. As long as you have this image you will always wonder....Fantasy makes for cold camping. Who knows maybe with all that young stuff out of the way you can move on to something more fulfilling.

[steve smoot]

Miriam, I never said I wanted to go find the gal. I was just sharing a moment in my life. Hell, I am going to remain single for the rest of days. PERIOD.

Feel free to write that down and quiz me at any time.

[parnold]

Hell, I am going to remain single for the rest of days. PERIOD

[graybear13]

A few things come to mind : What doesn't kill you will make you stronger ( they left out the part about being crippled,scarred,ect.) and never look back and mourn what you had,it's what you have now that you have to work with.Single life is the best thing since sliced bread,enjoy!!!