Saddened Day by Loss of A Loved One

[Classic Finn]

Dear friends,

I couldnt hold this in any longer, the pain seems to be unbearable..


Today our flag flies at half mast.....To honor our Grandpa and loving
Father..



This morning at 0900 we received a telephone call from 600 kilometers
away... Hospital staff said that Our Beloved Grandpa and father of my wife Suvi passed away after a bad heart attack last Friday.. And Medical Staff had revived him for 39 minutes in total...he was unconcious since then however breathing on his own.. The damages he sustained were extensive.. Had he lived ... he would of been in a vegetable state...

We have never experienced this great loss and we are not experienced
in coping with this at all..

How do you - If you have lost a loved one - gotten over the deep sadness that seems so unbearable...

Just had to ask

From a saddened heart and saddened family

Classic Finn

[Kens]

Sorry to hear of your loss. All I can say is it takes time.

[Sonetpro]

Heikki,
My condolences. It takes alot of time. and even then still feel it in your heart. I still feel that for my dad 23 years later. But it does get better after time.

[Chip]

Finn,, I dont think ya ever really get over it,,, but ya learn to live with all the good memories,,,

thoughts are wid ya and your family in this time of sorrow,,

hang in there buddy

chipper

[Loader]

Heikki,

I too am sorry for your families loss. To me, besides the fact that time is needed, surounding yourself with loved ones, comfort each other and remember all the good times, the laughs, the joy, everthing that made you love the man.

My deepest sympathy to you and yours.

[An Ol Timer]

Finn,
I'm an old man and being so I have lost both parents. My wife's parents. A 16 yr old daughter in 77 and then my wife of 40+ yrs in 2000. Regardless of the number of experiences it never gets better. I can only say family, family, family and that one great friend that we all have. My condolences.

[UTDRob]

Finn,, I dont think ya ever really get over it,,, but ya learn to live with all the good memories,,,

That's all you can do, Focus on the good memories.

[Chris C]

Classic Finn,

I am so sorry for your loss. No-one can tell you they know how you feel because they didn't have the same relationship with the deceased you did. This is your loss, your loss alone, and you have to take your journey your way. Grief is a terribly difficult burden, and one I wish no-one ever had to experience..............but we all have, do, or will someday. I facilitate grief groups in our community. I'll PM you some information which might help.

[asianflava]

I know what you are going thru and I send my condolences. We lost my wife's mother 5 days before Christmas. She had been sick for a long time so when she went, it was almost a relief. Not for us but for her, since she had to live in pain for so long. One reason I was in FL last week was to attend her memorial.

It's tough to get thru, but thinking about the good things helps you.

[goldcoop]

Heikki-

Deepest sorrow for your loss.

Remember he is in a "better" place.

Having experienced EXTREME losses in my wife's family, I can say that talking about ALL the memories (good, bad & ugly) with your family helps...

Clergy & Therapists can help you sort things out (both spiritual & psycological) if losses are severe...

Time will help, but remember, a Grandfather is always with us!

Coop

[madjack]

Heikki, my deepest and sincerest condolences on you, Suvi's, the kids and the rest of the families loss. I lost my Dad 23 yrs ago and not a day goes by that I don't miss him, his wit and his wisdom. It helps to remember not only the good times but just exactly what he would have to say to all of you at a time like this. Time will help the grieving but the memories will last forever...I keep thinking how much my Dad would have loved these crazy Td'rpprs and it makes me smile and say a little thank you to him...everyday
Jack

[Boodro]

Heikki , my thoughts & prayers go out to you & Suvi & family ! I have lost a loved one many years ago, ( my big brother) . I still grieve & miss him terribly, I remember him always in my heart & dreams. Time will never heal the wounds of loss , but time & family love can ease the pain you all feel now. Talk about your Granpa/ Father in loving memory & rejoice in his release of this worlds pain. Most of all never forget him , hold him close to your heart & memory's.

Your faraway friend ,
but never too far . Greg

[Frank]

Heikki and Suvi,

We are so sorry about your loss. There are no words I can say to make you feel any better, only time can do that. If you want to talk to him, he will listen, for he lives in your mind, he just can't answer. If you want to touch him, put your hand on your heart for he lives there also. I know time will help for I've been there many times, by the time I was 30 I had lost my Mother, Father, 4 Grandparents and many more I loved. The hurt of missing him will always be there but so will the knowledge of his love, which will live forever in you. Our prayers are with you.

Frank and Linda

[Classic Finn]

To Each and Everyone of You - Our Family Honors and Respects your kind replies and prayers..

It helps more than you can ever imagine....and even from friends so far away..

My wife said somthing that really stuck to my mind and hit the soul...
And really made me think...

These are her words: Did dad pass away in order to make room for our
son Samuel? - (Born 15th of Dec.. 2004..)

Did dad know his mission in life was almost over and now he lives in this
world thru the eyes of Samuel?

Now Samuel has his very own personal angel looking over him. ..Grandpa

So many things were left unsaid..

You folks are special.. this indeed is more than just a website...Its a family..


God Bless You All
Classic Finn and Family

[kurtibm]

Classic Finn and Family,
My heartfelt condolences on your loss.
When my Dad passed 10 years ago March 12th, I received the following poem from a friend. It helped me, and I hope that it might help you, as well.

When God sends forth a tiny soul
To learn the ways of earth
A Mother’s love is waiting here
We call this wonder BIRTH

When God calls home a tired soul
And stills a fleeting breath
A Father's love is waiting there
This too is BIRTH not DEATH



Please realize that though you feel his loss here on earth, that he continues to LIVE, protecting you and yours and exercising faith on your behalf.

Again, my condolences.

kurt