Thanks all!
I bought the solar panel from costco as well as the inverter, I went with the inverter from costco becuase of their return policy.
I also bought:
HQRP Pair 144 inches (3.66m) 1x4mm² Photovoltaic Solar Array Cables with MC4 Connectors
Battery Tender 021-0123 Battery Tender Junior 12V Battery Charger (it is a kit, and has the alligator clips as well as a ring terminal harness)
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000CI ... 00_s00_i01Battery Tender Deltran Cigarette Lighter Adapter 081-0069-5
Morningstar SunSaver SS-10-12v Charge Controller 10A 12V
so my next question is how do I connect the cable(s) with the MC4 connectors (that is what the panel outputs too) to the charge controller? is there some sort of "converstion clip"? It looks to me like the controler wants the cables(s) wrapped around the screw(s), and that implys that I have to take the clips off one end and strip the wire, but that can't really be right, can it? I have made CAT5 and other cables before, as well as done some SIMPLE phone and electrical wireing, so I am not afraid per se of stripping the wires, but I would rather not, and I dont' want to be wrong. Do I need a MC4 to ring terminal? if so is that the male end or the female end?
Then I need to get from the controller to the battery tender. what do I need for that?

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