I decided I should put in my 2 cents worth, I am different from most women, I was married 26 years to a wonderful man. we never competed, we were proud of each others accomplishments. I would have to argue with him to go buy the tools he needed and would have to schedule him, pack and buy groceries for him to get him to take that fishing trip he had talked about. I would help him and praise him and we worked together raising our sons. He could cook and clean and do any chores. He didn't really like wood work but would support me giving me praise and suggestions and help me. I didn't really like mechanic work but I was supportive and would help him. I was raised with two brothers and lived on the street with all boys and I was the tag along with my brothers. I took pride in learning about all the things boys liked. I learned a lot and never grew out of being somewhat of a "tom boy" but I think I learned a lot more, I learned how men see things and how they operate, I was never girly and hated the girls who giggled and gossiped and plainly they didn't make sense to me. I didn't play games and wanted to be beside a boy not to compete or serve, I was raised in the 50's and 60's, and people didn't just think that way. until I met my husband I didn't think they made a man for me. I have more in common with men because of my hobbies and activities I really don't know how to be girly now. I just don't have the silly hangups , don't discuss make up can't wear heals and would rather go fishing, sleep outside than be in a stinky hotel where all sorts of people have slept in the bed . I don't like bed bugs, and I prefer to eat my own food. I know women are suppose to be squeamish but I'm not. I have killed snakes and played with frogs, when my son was 4 or 5 thought mommy would get scared when he brought in a frog, well I took it up and played with it and showed how to draw a circle and to face off other opponents frogs. my husband laughed silly.
I know that I am different from other women and I was a wife once too. My husband would say he was the luckiest man in the world having me. I am not looking for "another man" I am too old, set in my ways and I don't want to play all the games. I am happy not having to jump through the girly hoops to please a man. Most men expect women to have hoops. I have tried dating and it stinks!!! so I will just be single loving life and doing my thing.
I love the support and valuable insight and suggestions that all of the men and women have given me on this forum I have learned so much and appreciate the differences and different builds. I have been jealous of talent and abilities and sometimes of the wood working tools, I just change my shirt often because of the drooling.
Now gentlemen about your wifey banter I am glad that you felt you could do so and I support you. I know that there is so much more to a marriage but the junk has to be dispersed somehow so I dont get upset about it, nor am I offended, I just laughed. I wish all of you good luck and warm wishes for your marriage.
Mary C.
